As some of you may already know, I have been in an intense time of “out with the old and in with the new.” I have a storage unit that I have slowly been going through trying to rid myself of “things.” As I’ve done this work, I’ve discovered some lessons in this purging experience.
As I went through boxes I found among other things:
- tax returns that were 15 years old,
- paperwork for a car I owned two cars ago,
- certificates from workshops I completed nearly 20 years ago in a job that was not even my profession,
- certificates from business classes I took while working towards an AA that I never completed, (but went on to earn a BA and an MA),
- holiday cards and photos from people I don’t even remember any more,
- receipts for bills that have been paid for a decade or so, and
- clothes that were 1-2 sizes larger than my current size, representing a troubling time in my life.
These are just a few of the things that really stood out. I held these things and questioned why I felt it important to hold on to any of this. Seriously? Why? Here’s what I’ve learned. I have spent the first half of my life living with a number of folks. During this time I’ve come to realize that no matter the size of the house, people tend to fill the space. It is like there is some unwritten rule somewhere that says there should never be a drawer or space in the closet that is not filled. Why have just one “junk drawer” when you can have 4? I am as guilty as anyone else. I currently share a home where I rent a bedroom and bathroom. When I first moved in, there was so much space in the walk-in closet I could not imagine filling it, particularly since it was only going to be a temporary stay. Now, as I prepare to move, four years later, I am almost overwhelmed by the amount of stuff that I have collected in just four years. I wonder where did it all come from and why did I hold onto this stuff. Seriously, how many pairs of slacks does a person really need? How many t-shirts? How many pairs of shoes? And two dozen scarfs? This is just the clothing! I don’t want to be the one who dies with the most stuff. That just means more work for my loved ones to sort through and give away and shred and … no, thank you. I want to simplify my life. I am spending the second half of my life creating memories.
As I’ve purged these “things” from my life, I have also taken time to evaluate relationships in my life. I know, it sounds harsh but I realized this year that there are people in my life who are energy vampires and I don’t want them in my life anymore. Some I can distance from and others I take care to shield myself when I am in their presence. I have been ceremoniously releasing folks who don’t support me, folks who are perpetually negative, and folks whose energy drains me. It is a difficult thing to do but a necessary part of self-care.
We are currently in the phase between the full moon and the coming new moon. This is a time of release; a time to release the fullness in our lives, the bloating of things that no longer serve our higher purpose. We will be entering the phase of the new moon on Saturday, July 22. New moons represent new beginnings and as such is a great time to work on manifesting what we want in our lives. So what are you releasing this week in order to make room for manifesting the things and people you want in your life? Are you looking for more space? Do you seek new friends; a new love? Are you happy with your job or do you seek a career that feeds your soul? I would love to hear what you all are releasing and what you want to manifest with the coming new moon. What are you doing to create the life you want? Please feel free to add your comments below and as always, if you enjoyed this post, please share it with a friend.