Let’s talk about anger. I know, ick, bleh, yuck, why? Well, because it is an emotion we all experience. Every emotion you feel, you feel for a reason. It is what you do with that emotion that matters.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” ~Mark Twain
So yes, we all experience times when we might feel anger. The word “anger” originates from the Latin word “rabies,” which means rage and fury. Yes, think of what a rabid animal looks like. Not a pretty picture. Anger affects not just the emotions, but the physical body, as well as your emotional and spiritual selves. Think back to a time when you were angry. Did your heart beat a little faster? Did your arms and legs tremble? Did you feel your jaw and hands clench? It is safe to say that nobody wants to feel anger. So when you find yourself in that space, what do you do to get out of it?
Anger is “the primary emotional state that functions to uphold our boundaries.” ~Robert Augustus Masters
When you feel anger it is because something is out of place. Your boundaries have been breached. If someone or something invades your personal space, you may experience the emotion of anger. When you are attacked physically, verbally, emotionally, yes, you experience the emotion of anger. Anger is, therefore, an appropriate reaction. Remember that the feeling of anger is an emotion. If you react with aggression, then the emotion becomes an action. The key is to figure out what boundaries have been breached and then carefully consider how you want to deal with the emotion of anger.
Here is a tarot spread to help you work through anger.
- Cause: Explore the cause of your anger. Why are you experiencing anger?
- Boundaries: If anger is about boundaries being breached, consider what boundaries have been crossed. It may be someone else crossed a boundary and you are being too nice to identify it and deal with it or it may be that you have crossed one of your own boundaries that needs to be re-evaluated.
- Release: Next, what do you need to do to release this anger? No one wants to hold on to anger so how can you begin to work through this emotion and release it.
- Lesson: What life lessons can you learn from this anger? Don’t just go through the motions. Learn the lesson so that you recognize it the next time it shows up.
- Change: Finally, what will change after you release the anger? How will life be different for you once you work through this?
If you are experiencing anger or frustration, I hope this spread helps you to work through that emotion. And always, be kind to yourself.
Peace and love,